Recognize
Long-standing Traditions.
Recognize that manners and customs in the Middle East go back to the
beginnings of civilization. Long-established practices and conventions--fashioned
over centuries within the harsh desert environment--govern interactions
between individuals.
Greetings
Shaking Hands. Handshakes, though regarded as important,
usually do not possess the same firmness as handclasps of many Europeans
or Americans. We usually shake hands only the first time we are
introduced to someone. Most Arabs shake hands every time they meet you
and every time they leave you. This applies whether they meet you on
the street, in an office, at a conference, restaurant, or at home. The
pattern in Saudi Arabia is to shake hands on meeting, chat a bit, and
shake hands again on leaving--even if you meet ten times a day.
Small Talk and Ritual Greetings. Middle Easterners often greet
each other with a number of ritual phrases and fixed responses. Ancient
custom governs these interactions. To Western eyes, profuse greetings,
inquiries about health and well-being, often take up inordinate amounts
of time but it is important in establishing friendly relations.
Hospitality. Giving a warm reception to strangers harks back
to the culture of the desert. Developed over centuries, where the desert
environment bound traveling nomads to depend on the graciousness and
generosity of others, hospitality enabled inhabitants of the Arabian
Peninsula to survive thirst, hunger and sudden raids/attacks. Many Middle
Eastern peoples continue this custom of showing courtesy and consideration
to strangers. Demonstrating friendliness, generosity and hospitableness
become expressions of personal honor, even sacred duties.
Touching. Long handshakes, grasped elbows, even walking
hand in hand by two males is common place in the Arab world. Contact
between the opposite sex in public is considered close to obscene.
Distance in talking with one another (body space) may be much closer
with Middle East peoples than with Westerners.
Eye contact during discussions--often long and direct--is important.
Staring is not necessarily rude (except gazing at women).
Gestures
Arabs, like most people, use gestures and body movements to communicate.
It has been said that "To tie an Arabs hands while he is
speaking is tantamount to tying his tongue." However, Arab gestures
differ a great deal from American (or Western) ones.
Although there are numerous other gestures associated specifically with
the Arab culture, the following have been identified as some of the
most common and widespread in the Arabian Peninsula.
The gesture of placing the right hand or its forefinger on the tip of
the nose, on the right lower eyelid, on top of the head, on the mustache
or beard has the meaning of "its in front of me, I see it
or its on my head to accomplish." Another meaning is "its
my obligation."
Right hand out, palm down, with fingers brought toward oneself repeatedly
in a clawing motion, is the sign for calling someone to come.
Placing the palm of the right hand on the chest immediately after shaking
hands with another man shows respect or thanks. A very slight bow of
the head may also be added.
Touching the tips of the right fingertips to the forehead while bowing
the head slightly, or kissing the back of a dignitarys hand also
connotes "Respect."
Grasping the chin with the thumb side of the right fist is a sign of
wisdom or maturity.
By holding the fingers in a pear shaped configuration with the tips
pointing up at about waist level and moving the hand slightly up and
down signals "wait a little bit" or "be careful. "
This gesture can be observed extensively when driving in the crowded
streets of the Arab cities. In such a locale, it may be accompanied
by curses from an anxious taxi driver or a pedestrian trying to cross
the street.
Hitting the side of ones face with the palm of one hand, head
slightly tilted, and eyes wide open, is meant as an expression of surprise.
Flicking the right thumbnail on front teeth can be translated to mean
"I have no money" or "I have only a little."
Biting the right forefinger, which has been placed sideways in the mouth,
may be a threat or an expression of regret. · In Western culture
the "OK" sign is a positive gesture. However in the Arab world,
if the gesture is shaken at another person it symbolizes the sign of
the evil eye. An Arab may use the sign in conjunction with verbal curses.
Hitting the right fist into the open palm of the left hand indicates
obscenity or contempt.
Placing the tips of the left fingers and thumb together so that the
hand faces right, then placing the tip of the right forefinger directly
on the left fingertips indicates an obscenity or insult directed at
ones birth or parentage. Specifically "You have five fathers."
Placing the palm of the right hand on the chest, bowing the head a little
and closing ones eyes connotates "Thank You" (in the
name of Allah).
Touching noses together three times when greeting is a Bedouin gesture
of friendship and respect.
Two men kissing each other quickly on the lips when greeting is an expression
of friendship.
A quick snap of the head upwards with an accompanying click of the tongue
connotates: "No", "perhaps", or "What you say
is false."
By joining the tips of the right thumb, forefinger, and middle finger
and then moving the configuration rapidly in front of the body, an Arab
will add emphasis to his speech.
Patting another persons shoulder with the right hand is a conciliatory
gesture.
Before serving coffee, a bit of it may be poured onto the ground. This
is a Bedouin gesture of sacrifice.
During the Hajj (pilgrimage), people may kiss only on the shoulders
as a gesture of friendship and greeting.
Flipping the hand near the mouth and simultaneously making a clicking
sound with the tongue and teeth is used to indicate that a person is
not to worry.
By holding the right hand in front of the face with the back facing
forward and then flipping the hand so that the palm is up, the Arab
will indicate that the person asked for is not present.
If an Arab rubs his earlobe with the tips of his right forefinger and
thumb, he may be asking, "Do you want me to answer the question
for you?"
Placing a half closed hand in front of the stomach, and then turning
it slightly connotes that the person to whom the gesture is made is
a liar.
By first touching the tip of the right forefinger on the tongue and
then placing it on the tip of the nose, an Arab gives a sign for a person
to hurry.
Be aware of appearing to be in a hurry when you are among Arabs. For
example, during a business appointment or social visit with an Arab,
do not look at your watch or otherwise act as if you have little time
to talk. Arabs can be very offended by this. Time is much less rigidly
scheduled in Arab countries than in the U.S.
Pointing your finger or a pencil at anyone while speaking, or beckon
anyone with your finger. It is considered a threat, and only animals
are treated in this manner.
No. The gesture "no" may often be done by tilting the
head backward, raising eyebrows, jutting out the chin or making a clicking
sound with the tongue.